Gravy Over Grudges

Headed to see your family this week? I learned a new hack to help leaders communicate better with their teams. But I think it works even better with family especially around the holidays. This hack helps to keep the peace and your sanity for those intense holiday dinners.

How it works:

You know how most people roll into family conversation like they’re at a 10—totally convinced they’re 100% right. Well, that’s exactly how Thanksgiving turns into Fight Club.

So be the Yoda of the group and, try this instead: share your opinions like you’re at a 6. You’ve got your great perspective, sure, but maybe—just maybe—you don’t have all the answers. This leave room for more. It’s a cleaver little tweak that can totally change the conversation.

What to do:

Cancel the “I Know Everything” Vibes: Say stuff like, “This is just my take, this is what I understand, or as I have read or heard.” It’s more approachable, and it makes people want to listen and engage.
Ask, Don’t Preach: “What do you think about it?” Boom—conversation, not confrontation.
Leave the Ego at the Door: Thanksgiving isn’t about winning a debate it’s about connecting. Besides the turkey is always the real winner.
Don’t Fight, Study: If the conversation starts to head south, don’t fight get curious and use magical phrase: “Tell me more about that.”

Are you a 6 or a 10? Really this is a great lesson for every area of your life. It might even help your family game nights not become fight nights. 😂 Try it!

The 6-10 Hack…. Keep the peace, start better conversations, and leave more time for pie.

Notes that Resonated

The lazy lose to the average.
The average lose to the focused.
The focused lose to the obsessed. (FS brainfood)
Yelling at traffic doesn’t make it move faster. Where are you wasting energy
While you're busy fighting what is, you're blind to what could be.
All the energy you put into arguing with reality comes at the expense of improving your situation. The mountain doesn't care how much you yell at it, but you'll find a path around it if you stop and look.
Very soon you will smile and say God this is more than I prayed for
Motivation is overrated what you really need is momentum
15% better is good, but 100% different is better
A 50% loss demands a 100% gain to break even
Excellence isn't about occasional brilliance - it's about consistent execution
Every ordinary moment is an opportunity to make your future easier or harder

Things to read

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01HCGYTH4?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_TF0WZKAZF9E5KJ9F6BXD

Podcasts to listen to

Monthly Missions

Videos to watch

This is a long video but has some great space to learn how Ali grew a new product sold it and made $800k in a few months. Very interesting brainstorming process, productivity tips, and tools you can use in your business.

Top Quotes

“Character consists mostly of what you do on the third and fourth tries” - James Michener
“Work hard in silence. Let success be your noise.” - frank ocean
“I never feared about my skills because I put in the work. Work ethic eliminates fear. So, you if you do the work, what are you fearing? You know what you’re capable of and what you’re not.” - Michael Jordan